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Post by Deleted on Jul 16, 2012 7:33:33 GMT -5
Sorry man  . Didn't mean to dredge it up. Glad you got back ok though. As for stuff that pisses me off at the moment: 1) Finally took a vacation, but still need to read emails for work - getting reminded of stuff or getting something that urgently needs to be replied to is a bitch when you've just managed to take your mind off "real life". 2) (Minor one) People getting judgmental and argumentative on a forum, but not offering any real justification or support for their stance. Bonus points if you can figure out which topic on this forum and which dillweed I'm talkin' bout!  |
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Post by Super Orbus on Jul 16, 2012 8:11:35 GMT -5
1) Finally took a vacation, but still need to read emails for work - getting reminded of stuff or getting something that urgently needs to be replied to is a bitch when you've just managed to take your mind off "real life". This x1000. Actually normally I make it a policy to just not read e-mail when I'm on vacation, and screw what anyone thinks. But it's getting harder to do that without creating more headaches for myself down the line.  |
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Post by Deleted on Jul 16, 2012 8:56:05 GMT -5
1) Finally took a vacation, but still need to read emails for work - getting reminded of stuff or getting something that urgently needs to be replied to is a bitch when you've just managed to take your mind off "real life". This x1000. Actually normally I make it a policy to just not read e-mail when I'm on vacation, and screw what anyone thinks. But it's getting harder to do that without creating more headaches for myself down the line. Yeah; in my case it's hard enough to go on vacation and not stress about work as it is, but when you get a call or email and there's an emergency on something you thought was dormant then it can be a massive pain. I try to deal with it to keep things from getting worse like you said, but it still takes out out of the "moment". |
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Post by megatronbison on Jul 16, 2012 9:07:20 GMT -5
Sorry man . Didn't mean to dredge it up. Glad you got back ok though. As for stuff that pisses me off at the moment: 1) Finally took a vacation, but still need to read emails for work - getting reminded of stuff or getting something that urgently needs to be replied to is a bitch when you've just managed to take your mind off "real life". 2) (Minor one) People getting judgmental and argumentative on a forum, but not offering any real justification or support for their stance. Bonus points if you can figure out which topic on this forum and which dillweed I'm talkin' bout! Ah sorry if I sounded dickish re: the band there dude. I'm just so burnt out and even more ill than I was before I left to do the gig! I've been ill since I turned 30 a week ago and you know- all this stuff just feels like an additional kick in the balls. I'm really kinda at breaking point now. As for the the argumentative forum thing- will have to have a gander at the threads- consider me curious! |
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Post by Allie on Jul 16, 2012 9:43:32 GMT -5
I hate how my voice sounds. I'm 29 years old but I sound like a teenager with a high-pitch voice or like a cartoon character. One day when I made a call for a job interview the secretary asked me if I was a foreigner. I said "No, why?". And her answer was "Because your voice sounds somehow (weird)". I'd like so much to tell her "Do I sound like a foreigner to you, you stupit bitch?". Can I do anything to make my voice sounds a little more normal and masculine? Haha, that reminds me of a character in a book I read a few months ago, Joe Abercrombie's The Heroes. One character is a master swordsman but he has a really high pitched voiced he's self conscious about and people make fun of him for it...but when he goes out on the battlefield he's a killing machine and scares the crap out of everyone around him. So I guess...be a real badass swordsman to make up for it?  Or threaten to eat people's children and tell them you'll f*** them until they love you. That's how Mike Tyson did it, anyway. |
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Post by Deleted on Jul 16, 2012 9:45:30 GMT -5
Dude, don't apologize! I was just worried about a friend is all. You didn't come off as dickish at all. And the thread thing is me being a queen bitch . But if you're interested it's the one that rhymes with "Operation Darkness" ;p. p.s. I just had to do more work over the phone after writing that post above, heheheh. Thank goodness for email I guess. |
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Post by Deleted on Jul 16, 2012 10:23:01 GMT -5
It's only Monday. Maybe they'll get their shit together and you won't have to do anymore work on your vacation?
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Post by Pitchfork on Jul 16, 2012 13:20:31 GMT -5
What gets on my nerves: spending several hours pitching the book to review blogs, waiting a week, only hearing back from two of them, and only getting a pair of "maybes." Ungh. It's relentless. |
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Post by megatronbison on Jul 16, 2012 14:27:35 GMT -5
What gets on my nerves: spending several hours pitching the book to review blogs, waiting a week, only hearing back from two of them, and only getting a pair of "maybes." Ungh. It's relentless. If it makes you feel any better I really enjoyed it. Finished it last night in the airport. Well- maybe "really enjoyed it" isn't quite right- more like "oh god that hit home way, way too often and left me more depressed about my own life than I'd care to admit". Needless to say I'll be forcing it onto other people. |
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Post by Deleted on Jul 16, 2012 18:46:38 GMT -5
I still need to check that out. Hell, I still need to get Kurt's book as well.
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Post by Allie on Jul 17, 2012 8:43:46 GMT -5
I've always wanted to stand out a lot more than I do, but I'm getting older and older, and not having ever been able to move far away from family members means I never got to really figure out my personality away from prying eyes and behavioral expectations.
Now that it's too late, and I have nothing to show for it, this really gets to me.
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Post by Deleted on Jul 17, 2012 10:30:15 GMT -5
I've always wanted to stand out a lot more than I do, but I'm getting older and older, and not having ever been able to move far away from family members means I never got to really figure out my personality away from prying eyes and behavioral expectations. Now that it's too late, and I have nothing to show for it, this really gets to me. It's not too late unless you're already dead. It is hard to break away though when you've been close to or around your family for a long time; I'm pretty sure my anti-social nature is from being babied by my mom. |
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Post by llj on Jul 17, 2012 17:04:22 GMT -5
It can be a hard and lonely path if you want to develop who you are outside of long time friends or family. Detaching yourself from relying on them so often can be very rewarding in many ways, but it's a lonely path, especially if your social skills aren't advanced enough to easily build relationships with new people, as one might expect of someone who's older and has mostly dealt with people they've known for most of their lives.
On the other hand, there are many people who stay within one clique of friends and family for most of their lives, and while I sometimes envy people who stayed close to the people they knew since childhood, I think that can limit their worldview in many ways too. I have a group of uncles, aunts and cousins who all live in the same city and basically depend on each other. It's not uncommon to see 15 or 20 of them hanging out together all at once. But because their network is so insulated, I find they can often be out of touch with many things outside of their circle.
There's also the additional quandary that as you get older, other people's social network becomes more calcified and walled up. They become less interested in inviting new people into their lives. Trying to get to know new people means breaking through their clique. Which is not easy.
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Post by Allie on Jul 17, 2012 17:09:47 GMT -5
It's not so much about breaking through other people's walls (as that would get easier if I could succeed at the other parts) as it is developing an appearance and personality.
One that won't embarrass the hell out of them. They already consider me a massive disappointment.
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Post by llj on Jul 17, 2012 17:24:21 GMT -5
Well, I think there's a difference between personality and persona. It seems like the concept of "standing out" would mean you desire a persona that would make you more appealing to others in some way. But just because you develop a social persona doesn't mean it's your "real" personality.
I mean, I don't know you that well, but judging from your posts I do get the sense that you have a pretty good idea of what you like and dislike, and know what you think about certain things such as culture and politics. That's part of your personality, and I'm sure part of what you think is distinct from your family's beliefs and opinions right now.
Perhaps it is the inability to bring these qualities out in the open? I find that's my problem. I mean, I'm sitting here and I know exactly who I am, what I like, what I dislike, and what I think about things. But I don't always bring it out in the open. I often substitute bland statements instead of my real thoughts, partially to avoid potential confrontations.
If your family is disappointed in you, I would imagine it's less about who you are as a person than what you've achieved in life (or haven't). Family members often think in terms of 2 things when sizing you up: career and relationships/marriage. You could be the most colorful personality in the world, but if you're not making much money or don't have a stable love life, they tend to get prickly about how you've turned out. At least that's how it is with me and everyone I know. It always comes down to career and marriage.
"When are you going to get a better paying job? When are you gonna get ma--rried?"
BAH.
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. Didn't mean to dredge it up. Glad you got back ok though.
