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Post by Brand on Jan 17, 2013 14:50:34 GMT -5
Client who hire designers and then disregard the designer. Then come up with terrible crap that the designer must implement.
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Post by Bobinator on Jan 19, 2013 0:23:32 GMT -5
So tonight I find out a former friend of mine, one who pretty much started treating me like I didn't exist for literally no reason for a few months now... he's holding arcade nights every month with all his friends. And of course, he didn't bother telling me. I've been trying to move past it, but seeing as he's one of the few local friends I've had, it's kind of tough. And now that I think about it, I'm pretty sure I'm hardly the only person he's done this to.
So now I'm feeling kind of used and manipulated. I'm not the only one this has happened to, right?
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Post by vetus on Jan 19, 2013 9:22:52 GMT -5
I'm not the only one this has happened to, right? It's not something unusual (unfortunately). I mean having a very close friend which later he will forget your existence even if you go at the same school. Like a close friend of mine in high school which had nerdy hobbies like me and when I was proposing him to do something less nerdy like going out for a walk he would only go out for some movies at the cinema. And suddenly in middle school he changed companies and totally left his nerdy side in order to be more acceptable in his new friends. And that's when he stopped hanging out with me. On top of that he suddenly started to bully me along with other schoolmates (yeah, I was the easy target for the bullies back then) just for the fun. From back then till now I started to hate guys (mainly ex friends) who were once nerds into an "embarrasing" level and later they became more "trendy" and make fun of you for still having nerdy hobbies even if you're not loud about them. It's like meet an ex-prostitute and telling you how bad is sex before wedding. |
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Post by Brand on Jan 21, 2013 9:34:17 GMT -5
So now I'm feeling kind of used and manipulated. I'm not the only one this has happened to, right? I had a best friend that when I went through a period of being super depressed stopped taking my calls and just ignored me. Which was super fucking annoying because I hand done tons to help her out when she was in need but when I needed someone she wasn't there. In the end I stopped being friend with her and her group of friends. It was tough for a while, as it was very lonely. But suddenly most of the drama was gone from my life. Eventually, I met new friends. It was a hard choice but in the long run I think it was the right one. |
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Post by Allie on Jan 22, 2013 10:14:19 GMT -5
Sometimes, people just don't have the inclination to be around you anymore. It's not always necessarily something that you did. They just drift out of your life and don't drift back in. It happens more often than you'd think, and more often than you'd like.
Happens to me all the time. I'm over getting pissed off about it.
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Post by thethird on Jan 23, 2013 14:00:10 GMT -5
I'm sure I've posted it here half a dozen times, but I fucking hate getting the cold. My throat's so messed up that every time I swallow I make this ugly frog riiiibbbit sound. It's gross. Apparently nobody in my house can go a month without getting sick, and it inevitably spreads to me and god damn this is frustrating.
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Post by Allie on Jan 24, 2013 10:38:32 GMT -5
Basically, that I was raised (more accurately : conditioned/brainwashed) to have a belief conviction (believe it or not, this isn't related to religion or politics in any way) that pretty much ensures that I'll always be miserable.
I float between two sorts of social sets (though I don't have much presence in either), one that believes I take life too seriously (as evidenced by my massive cynicism and tendency to jump into existing arguments, and that I never smile), and those who think I don't take life seriously enough (as evidenced by my lack of financial success, and that I'm still single and don't have any children).
It's the latter group that holds higher standing in my life, since that's the group that includes my family, and otherwise people I've known for 15-20 years.
Moving back to the beginning, I was basically conditioned from a young age that life is meant to be nothing but serious business, and happiness is only for the wildly successful, and that I haven't earned, and probably will never earn it. Raised that enjoying life is a privilege only for successful workaholics to access when they no longer have to work.
I find this to be a rather horrid mindset, and yet, I really can't dispute it. I haven't "proven" myself to those who've known me longest, and they never let me forget it. The guilt and shame that should come with that should be motivation to try to claw my way out of that on my own and become the "upstanding citizen" they expected of me, but all it's doing is pushing away other people and keeping me from getting to know other people.
I just really don't see how one squares the circle (to use a cliché) on this.
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Post by vetus on Jan 24, 2013 13:51:43 GMT -5
Sometimes, people just don't have the inclination to be around you anymore. At least some of them do it in a more tactful way that won't leave any misunderstandings. And even if they stop hanging around you that doesn't mean that they'll stop talking to you casually when you call them once in a while or write to them at Facebook. |
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Post by Brand on Jan 24, 2013 14:25:52 GMT -5
I used to feel I didn't devise to be happy but then I said, "Fuck it, I'll do what I want with my life." Since then my life has actually gotten much better. Part of it was parting with said friends, part of it was getting control of the relationship with my Mother, moving out, meeting a better class of friends (I know that sounds dickish but the people I am friend with today would never treat me like that past group of friends).
I see nothing wrong with enjoying your life as you live, if someone has a problem with it, fuck 'em.
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Post by Deleted on Jan 24, 2013 14:30:37 GMT -5
Basically, that I was raised (more accurately : conditioned/brainwashed) to have a belief conviction (believe it or not, this isn't related to religion or politics in any way) that pretty much ensures that I'll always be miserable. I was gonna ask if you were a Catholic too but then I saw the "not a religion" thing. |
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Post by megatronbison on Jan 24, 2013 16:18:34 GMT -5
Basically, that I was raised (more accurately : conditioned/brainwashed) to have a belief conviction (believe it or not, this isn't related to religion or politics in any way) that pretty much ensures that I'll always be miserable. I was gonna ask if you were a Catholic Hahahha! It's so true  |
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Post by Super Orbus on Jan 24, 2013 18:18:21 GMT -5
Basically, that I was raised (more accurately : conditioned/brainwashed) to have a belief conviction (believe it or not, this isn't related to religion or politics in any way) that pretty much ensures that I'll always be miserable. I float between two sorts of social sets (though I don't have much presence in either), one that believes I take life too seriously (as evidenced by my massive cynicism and tendency to jump into existing arguments, and that I never smile), and those who think I don't take life seriously enough (as evidenced by my lack of financial success, and that I'm still single and don't have any children). It's the latter group that holds higher standing in my life, since that's the group that includes my family, and otherwise people I've known for 15-20 years. Moving back to the beginning, I was basically conditioned from a young age that life is meant to be nothing but serious business, and happiness is only for the wildly successful, and that I haven't earned, and probably will never earn it. Raised that enjoying life is a privilege only for successful workaholics to access when they no longer have to work. I find this to be a rather horrid mindset, and yet, I really can't dispute it. I haven't "proven" myself to those who've known me longest, and they never let me forget it. The guilt and shame that should come with that should be motivation to try to claw my way out of that on my own and become the "upstanding citizen" they expected of me, but all it's doing is pushing away other people and keeping me from getting to know other people. I just really don't see how one squares the circle (to use a cliché) on this. You sound awfully hung up on what other people think. If pleasing other people is how you define happiness, then so be it. But you're going to have a hard time of it. |
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Post by Deleted on Jan 24, 2013 21:18:27 GMT -5
Apparently I didn't check Auto Save on EDF 2017, and lost 10 hours of progress. WEEE!
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Post by Allie on Jan 24, 2013 22:38:09 GMT -5
Basically, that I was raised (more accurately : conditioned/brainwashed) to have a belief conviction (believe it or not, this isn't related to religion or politics in any way) that pretty much ensures that I'll always be miserable. I float between two sorts of social sets (though I don't have much presence in either), one that believes I take life too seriously (as evidenced by my massive cynicism and tendency to jump into existing arguments, and that I never smile), and those who think I don't take life seriously enough (as evidenced by my lack of financial success, and that I'm still single and don't have any children). It's the latter group that holds higher standing in my life, since that's the group that includes my family, and otherwise people I've known for 15-20 years. Moving back to the beginning, I was basically conditioned from a young age that life is meant to be nothing but serious business, and happiness is only for the wildly successful, and that I haven't earned, and probably will never earn it. Raised that enjoying life is a privilege only for successful workaholics to access when they no longer have to work. I find this to be a rather horrid mindset, and yet, I really can't dispute it. I haven't "proven" myself to those who've known me longest, and they never let me forget it. The guilt and shame that should come with that should be motivation to try to claw my way out of that on my own and become the "upstanding citizen" they expected of me, but all it's doing is pushing away other people and keeping me from getting to know other people. I just really don't see how one squares the circle (to use a cliché) on this. You sound awfully hung up on what other people think. If pleasing other people is how you define happiness, then so be it. But you're going to have a hard time of it. It's important to be respected by family, friends, and co-workers, rather than just thought of as a mentally-ill adult child... |
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Post by camanchi on Jan 25, 2013 4:13:44 GMT -5
So now I'm feeling kind of used and manipulated. I'm not the only one this has happened to, right? I had a best friend that when I went through a period of being super depressed stopped taking my calls and just ignored me. Which was super fucking annoying because I hand done tons to help her out when she was in need but when I needed someone she wasn't there. In the end I stopped being friend with her and her group of friends. It was tough for a while, as it was very lonely. But suddenly most of the drama was gone from my life. Eventually, I met new friends. It was a hard choice but in the long run I think it was the right one.Heck yes. While moving on from "friends" sucks, sometimes it's the best thing. I'm not a fan of drama, whatever that means to most people. When I moved on from a group of friends that were high drama it was the best thing I could of done for myself at that time. You sound awfully hung up on what other people think. If pleasing other people is how you define happiness, then so be it. But you're going to have a hard time of it. It's important to be respected by family, friends, and co-workers, rather than just thought of as a mentally-ill adult child... I think that's a bit objective. Just the kind of people your friends, family and co-workers are should speak volumes about how much importance you should place on their so-called "respect". Some people are impossible to please or put pressures on their kin in order to live vicariously through them or so they themselves can feel more happy/successful for helping produce success in someone they are invested in. They don't sound too supportive, or perhaps you are getting internally caught up in things that they are not noticing, understanding or validating so they instead try to push you towards the typical things that people consider to be a common measure of happiness and success. |
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